Want To Be Happy? Marry an Ubrunni.

Hi Hi. So it is now thursday the 8th at about 1pm or something. I am feeling a bit up and down at the moment but I will catch up with all that has happened over the few days before I get to now, bear with me. So Tuesday night I came home and hung around with the kids and stuff. I let them come into my room which I think was a big mistake in itself. They were having a look at all my stuff and kept mama t (13 year old) kept saying how everything I had was so beautiful and she was really excited. I never wear my sunglasses here and she really loved them so I told her she could have them if she liked. She then went on to ask whether she could have one of my dresses, one of my hats etc etc which made me feel both guilty and uncomfortable. Sophia the cute 7 year old came in looking upset and they started having a conversation in fanti..mama t told me that sophia was upset because she couldnt go to school yet because her dad could not afford the fees. That made me really sad because sophia is the most awesome little chick and so sweet. Mama T shits me a bit because shes quite calculating and tries to take advantage of me at times but sophia is the bomb and I really love her. So anyway I asked mama t how much school fees are and she said it was about 40 cedi maybe which is like 40 australian dollars!! I'm not sure how long that was for but I was like shit man I'd pay that, that's nothing! I have a feeling Mama t then went out to the rest of the family, spread the news about how much stuff I have and that I wanted to help sophia out, it was a snowball effect from there. When I joined them outside they all kept talking in fanti which really pissed me off because I had picked up it was about me and it was very obvious. Sophia's dad then comes over, sits next to me and asks me whether I will take Sophia back to Australia with me and take care of her because she loves me. I have a feeling when some of you read this you will laugh because it seems so ridiculous but I can assure you it was 100 percent serious and really upsetting considering his situation and the fact that I really care for sophia. I tried to make light of it and just kept saying ohh you will miss her too much etc..but he kept going on and on and sophia is sitting there starting up at me with her innocent little face and I was just like no no you really don't understand I cant take her. Kokua was not even supporting me at this stage and I just felt really ganged up on, like I was some selfish white girl who only cares about myself. I know this is not the case but it was really distressing. Then some guy comes into the courtyard and introduces himself to me and starts interogating me about my 'mission in ghana' and why I am here. I ended up feeling really uncomfortable again and had to say 'im sorry but do you have a problem with me being in your country?' he was very taken aback and was like OH NO NO NO NO! I have noticed Ghanaian people place this big importance on respect for everyone, but animosity towards white people is still sometimes prevelant but they try to present it in this really subtle way, it's not very nice to experience. Sophias dad then comes up to me and tries to give me this bracelet. He had just begged me to take his daughter from him, I decline, and he gives me a piece of jewellery? There's no way I was taking it and I refused. He seemed really offended and hurt and we had this sort of verbal struggle as we passed the bracelet back and forth. I got really upset at that point and I told them I didn't come to ghana to be made to feel bad about where I come from and how much money I have. Then it was sort of dropped but I felt very depressed for the rest of the night and went to bed quite early. Even the next morning at drumming/dancing I was feeling quite strange and it took me ages to get into it. My mind was somewhere else. The asanti guys are really cool though and it's nice to have them to hang with. The family are great but I sometime feel like I am their little white doll and that I have to constantly be so courteous, respectful and obliging to the point of suffocation. Asanti guys are much more laid back about everything. After my lessons I went and hung out with Tita and Abe (tita is the director abe is the sexual dance teacher) we went into town and I got a bottle of coke. (They are massive here and in glass bottles) We had some great discussions about western society vs here and it was very interesting. They are definitely at a different point of evolution, but so far I have been shown that evolution really has shit all to do with fundamental values. It made me think a lot about the links between money, selfishness, greed and compassion. Anyway we then went and got a famous ghana dish called fu fu. Its like this savoury dough stuff which they pound with a big long wooden stick/mallet called a kasava or something. It was alright but the dough here is too much for my stomach. Haven't gotten sick yet though, TOUCH WOOD!! They also filled me in on general young people stuff . Abe asked me about the bush parties which we have here! hahah Even the africans want a piece of the bush doof action, can you blame them? Coke is the drug of choice here by the way. they also sell one hundred percent alcohol in these barrels and I didn't believe that people actually drink it so we went and tried some..tasted like 100 percent to me...urgh! anyway I then took Abe to the internet because he really wants to apply to be in cirque de sole. Although their website boasts they want people from all different countries and cultures they make it pretty damn hard to apply online if your not from australia/america etc. That pissed me off. we are going to film a clip of him dancing later this arvo and I will try my best to get it onto the computer, but I'm doubtful..That night I came home and Mama T and I went to a place called Abbra to see Kokua at her work. Lots of attention there, I am going to leave on Tuesday morning because I feel like I can not give some of these people what they want and I am over feeling guilty. it's like if you give an inch they take a mile and I have to learn how to say no and be strong. Kokua and her son have some warped idea that me and him are going to fall in love and get married I think and he keeps calling me and trying to get me to come to accra. I am starting to doubt how much of Kokua's love for me is really genuine and how much is fueled by the fact that she wants me to have babies with her son and take him to australia..I have decided once I leave this place the story is I officially have a boyfriend back in australia and we are going to get married, I should've done that from the start but I didn't think the 'Oo here's rich ubrunni who can change my life' idea would be so prevalent. On a whole I have been treated very kindly here and the people are nice but I think it will be more pleasant if I am a taken woman. Me and Abe hung out last night had a drink and went to the beach. There were a few 'kiss the girl' little mermaid moments (disney fans will understand) but I decided against it...neh. Anyway I am going to go to this national park tomorow I think do some more lessons and church this weekend, start standing my ground and leave tuesday morning.